Have you ever heard the phrase, “the operation was successful, but the patient died”?
That is exactly what happened to the family that came to us for intergenerational mediation in Mosaica after a legal proceeding on their inheritance. During the proceeding, one party won over the others, but family relationships were destroyed – in effect, the “patient” died. This case, like so many others, demonstrates the high price (not only monetary) of legal actions taken against family members.
However, in this case, one member of family refused to give up. Despite his grievances, he contacted Mosaica for mediation in order to restore the relationships destroyed by his legal “victory.” Additional family members agreed to join the process, saying that they had nothing left to lose, as the world’s most precious resource – that of family – had already been lost. The family was no longer what it used to be; it had become broken.
During the mediation sessions, each of the parties had the chance to truly listen to each other, fully understand each other’s point of view and the needs driving them. After this important step, they managed to see beyond their narrow viewpoint and accept that there were other perspectives that they had been unaware of previously. Slowly, they abandoned their personal grievances to listen and see the humanity in the other. Due to this process and determination to improve, they were able to revive the love they used to have prior to the court case. Solutions were agreed upon and formalized in a contract.